When Church Hurts Part 6
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts Though we never had a meeting with Elliot or the leadership, I was again asked to teach a class and was also helping with a conference that our...
View ArticleLike A Hero
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts Donald Miller has a post at Storyline (storylineblog.com) that stunned me in its accuracy in describing my former pastor. The title of the post is...
View ArticleKnow When To Walk Away, Know When To Run
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts I recently received a message on the Facebook page for When Church Hurts in which the writer asked if they should leave a church if no one cares...
View ArticleSiding With The Many
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts I often reblog or link to the writings, wisdom, and insights of others, not so much because I couldn’t have said it myself, but simply because I...
View ArticleHow to Keep From Spiritual Abusing People
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts Tell the truth. That’s it. You’re probably thinking that’s crazy, but think about it. If you have been spiritually abused, think about if the...
View ArticleThe Upper Hand
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts I just have to say I had the best time yesterday! I and my family went to an auction. One of our former church’s plants has bought an old...
View ArticleConfessing to That Which I Did Not Do
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts I was watching one of those real life crime drama shows recently. I can’t remember if it was Dateline or 20/20 or 48 Hours, but the story was...
View ArticleMaybe The System, Itself, Is The Problem…
by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal I came across this quote today and I couldn’t help but think of the ‘church’ system I’ve encountered: “Life is full of examples of systems...
View ArticleNeverland
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts I remember well one of the first adult Sunday school classes I took at our former church. It was being touted as a fantastic opportunity to take a...
View ArticleDaring Greatly
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts “Daring Greatly” by Brene Brown. I am reading this book because it’s kind of a prerequisite for a workshop that my husband and I are going to...
View ArticleDaffodil Season Ends but Recovery Continues
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman from Under Much Grace and used with permission. More than a month ago, I learned about some cruel gossip that’s...
View ArticleElie Wiesel Would Have Been Disappointed in You
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts I haven’t posted in awhile. But the death of Elie Wiesel brought to mind this quote the spirit of which has always been at the forefront of my...
View Article16 Years After Finding Me After Baptist Taliban-istic Fundamentalism
by Cindy Foster cross posted from her blog Finding Fundamental As of June 28th, we have celebrated 16 years outside the Bible-based cult church I formerly referred to as “The Baptist Taliban.” Although...
View ArticleWhy People Support Abusive Leaders in the Church
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts In those crushing months after we left our first abusive church (read Part 2 of my story), one of the things I struggled with was, how could the...
View ArticleInformation About Spiritual Abuse
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts This page is dedicated to helping the reader understand how to recognize spiritual abuse. Survey Often, books, websites, and other information...
View ArticleDoing the Right Thing
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts “We must take sides. Neutrality helps the oppressor, never the victim. Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented. Sometimes we must...
View ArticleA Call For “The Church” To Repent
by Living Liminal cross posted from her blog Living Liminal Around this time last year, a policeman came knocking on my door, summoning me to a court conference two days hence. My eldest son, who was...
View ArticleThe Dunning-Krueger Effect in High Demand Relationships
by Cindy Kunsman cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace All images by Cindy Kunsman and Under Much Grace and used with permission. Just a reminder that the purpose of this discussion aims at...
View ArticleThe Cold Never Bothered Me Anyway
by Ellen cross posted from her blog When Church Hurts Just as in “Frozen,” my “shame” was in being “found out.” Not that I was really hiding anything. Because if what happened to me – the...
View ArticleDiscussing Toxic Patriarchy and Spiritual Abuse
by Cindy Kunsmans cross posted from her blog Under Much Grace Originally published in 2010 and titled ‘To New or Disgruntled Readers’ For people who visit here for the first time and find themselves a...
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